You sit down at your computer, ready to post one of the most exciting Facebook posts you will ever write. The official “We’re Engaged!!!” status update is almost complete. You hit “Post” and within moments, a flurry of “congrats” messages pile up but so too do the “when’s the date?” questions. Before you do anything, take a deep breath and enjoy this most joyful period of time in your life.
After you have celebrated your engagement and set a budget it is time to start thinking about setting a wedding date. I strongly suggest that you choose 2-3 potential dates before contacting potential vendors, purchasing your gown, and even choosing your wedding style. Your date will help to guide you as you make more decisions during the planning process. Consider the following to help you choose a wedding date that is practical and personal.
If you’re on a tight budget you may want to consider getting married in the off-season. Although, getting married during a time of year when the majority of your wedding must-haves are in season like food and flowers should be considered when trying to stay on budget. Getting married in January or February might help cut your rental venue fee down but you have to be prepared to make sacrifices in other areas. For example, let’s say that peonies are your absolute favorite flower and you can’t imagine having a bouquet with anything else. Depending on the time of year, it may be hard (if not impossible) for your florist to find them at a price that fits your budget. (In general, off-season flowers are incredibly expensive).
The same applies to Friday vs Saturday weddings. Venues are often cheaper to rent on any day of the week but Saturdays. Marry on a Friday, Sunday, or during the workweek could be tough to ask of your guests, but if you’re having a relatively small wedding and give people plenty of notice, your friends and family will understand. Need some help building your budget? Click here to learn more.
I love every season for its unique beauty but I knew that I didn’t want to wear a wedding gown in the middle of our brutal East Coast winters and that there was no way I could convince my sun-worshipping Fiancé to either. There was no doubt that having a summer wedding was best for us. Weather not only affects your wedding’s style and location but may set a completely different mood. If it’s snowing outside or it’s 30C, people will behave differently. Consider your wedding personality, then choose your season accordingly.
Getting married on a holiday weekend can have its pros and cons. You are either totally against it or you love the idea! For some families it is just more convenient to have a wedding on a holiday weekend and for others as much as they love you, do they really want to spend a major holiday celebrating you instead of being able to celebrate them? Know what’s most important to you and your fiancé, and be open to compromising on time and season if necessary.
4. Wedding Professionals
When we got engaged I knew the first thing I wanted, no NEEDED to do was book my favorite photographer. I knew that she was in high demand and there was no doubt that she would be the one to capture our special day. If you are like me and have dream professionals on your list, make sure to contact them early on. Sometimes the availability of these pros will dictate your wedding date. By contacting them early ask them if they can pencil you in. Should another couple contact them for the same date, the professional will typically contact you first to see if you would like to commit the date and time. Check out this post I wrote for you that helps you to inquire with wedding vendors.
5. Venue Availability
If you have your heart set on marrying at a particular venue, you will need to check their availability early on. Many wedding venues are booked 12 to 18 months in advance so inquire early so you aren’t disappointed.
6. Your Schedule
Always consider your schedule and the schedules of family and friends who you know you definitely want present on your wedding day. Even though you may love a season, it’s best not to get married during times you know are particularly stressful in your life or at work. Also, think about times when it will be easier for guests to travel.
What helped you choose your date? Share your experiences in the comments below!
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