First of all, congratulations on your engagement! The engagement period is a unique time in life when the focus is on you and your fiancé and what is most important to you as a couple. Pretty soon you will start to make some pretty big decisions about your wedding and if they haven’t already, friends and family will begin to ask you for all the great details. This is a really exciting time but it can also be very overwhelming as well.
Like many brides, this is the first time you are planning such an important celebration and there are many details that need to be sorted. Before you buy every bridal magazine on the shelf and start pinning on Pinterest (who are we kidding? You had that secret wedding Pinterest board before he even popped the question didn’t you?), let’s take a deep breath and check out my top tips for overcoming the overwhelming feeling of planning your wedding.
1. Don’t Rush Into Planning
This exciting time only comes once so you want to bask in the glow of your engagement and take some time to enjoy this time before you start planning anything. This is the time to talk with your fiancé about what you both want for the wedding. Spend some time dreaming about your day and try to have some fun while doing so. Maybe you’re the type of couple who work best while sitting at a table with a pen and paper, or at a coffee shop with your laptops. My husband and I found that we enjoyed the planning much more either on the couch or at our local wine bar. What matters most is that you find what works best for both of you.
2. Take Breaks
I know it sounds a bit ridiculous to tell you to take breaks when there is so much to do but taking breaks from planning your wedding is important –no it’s essential. You MUST take breaks and take them often so you are able to keep generating new ideas and have an enjoyable experience. This is after all supposed to be fun! Take time to enjoy drinks with the girls, go to dinner with your family and make time together where any wedding talk is off limits.
3. Set a Realistic Budget
The best plan for creating a wedding budget is taking a series of important steps. You can’t create a realistic budget without knowing approximately what things cost in your area. For example, you don’t want to create a budget and get stunned when you find out that photography packages start at $5,000 when you only budgeted for $1,000.
Make sure to do plenty of research, invest your time in meeting with a number of experts or asking friends, get quotes from vendors, and be realistic about what everything costs. Then sit down and look at your available funds to figure out what kind of wedding you will have. Make a priority list of which wedding elements are most important to you(catering, gown, photos) and doing the math to decide what percentage of your budget will go to those things, while spending less on(or doing without) the others. The best budgets are not to make you feel guilty or stressed but to keep you from losing control.
4. Stay Organized
The more organized you are, the less chance something will be missed and the less frazzled you will be. Once I was ready to start planning our wedding I made sure to remain super organized. I kept all of my worksheets, timelines, to-do lists, receipts, and contracts all in one binder so that it was easy to stay on top of things and was easy to access. I am a pen and paper kind of gal so this worked best for me but maybe you prefer to keep everything on your smartphone. If this is you, you might want to scan the app store and choose one of the many apps that are out there.
Yes, the wedding planning process can be overwhelming but here’s the good news: people love to help! I can’t stress this enough. You are only one person and you can’t do everything so don’t be shy and recruit help from your friends and family. Very close friends of the family were happy to set up our dessert bar for us, a dear friend delivered our flowers, and family helped to clean up the venue the next day. Asking for help isn’t a weakness, it’s a strength. Need ideas on what tasks can be delegated? I got you! Check out 20 Simple Wedding Tasks You Can Delegate.
6. Let Go
Remember throughout this entire process that there are going to be things that you can’t control. Did it really matter that we weren’t able to have our planned photobooth at the reception? Or that my little nephew talked up a storm during the ceremony? Heck no! What did matter was at the end of the day we were married. As long as at the end of the day you are able to marry the love of your life, then nothing else matters.
How have you overcome the overwhelming feeling in your wedding planning? I’d love to hear your tips and experiences as well!
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