When you ask your guy a question regarding wedding planning does he just mumble and say something like, “ya, ya. Whatever you’d like dear?” This may sound like the ideal answer but you want your wedding day to be a true reflection of you as a couple. Here are 5 tips to get your guy excited about wedding planning.
1. Plan Together
The first piece of advice is to make the planning a team effort by bringing him along to appointments and making major decisions together. I always wanted my guy to feel like he was part of the decision making and had a say in all of the big stuff. After all, it was his special day as well!
2. Get Creative
Show him things you find exciting, beautiful, unique, etc… to see if anything resonates or inspires him. Show him your vision before you start planning so that it is clear what is needed, wanted and budgeted for your wedding vision. Remember to be supportive and keep an open mind to his ideas. This is the time to listen to his ideas. Don’t talk, just listen. Don’t even provide feedback just listen to what he envisions for your day. Even if his ideas aren’t what you envisioned, resist the urge to constantly shoot him down.
3. Play To His Interests
The best way to get him involved is to play to his interests, whether he’s creative, handy or technical. Split tasks based on things you are both interested in or have a specific set of skills in. If he is great with carpentry have him design and build your reception welcome sign. If music is his forte, have him choose the band or create the reception music playlist. It’s important to assign him tasks that he will enjoy.
Just because you want him to enjoy planning doesn’t mean you should be stuck with all the essential, sometimes difficult tasks. He is your partner after all, so ask for his help and support. He might want to help, but just doesn’t know where to start or what to do, so create a designated task list and schedule. To make this easy for you I put together a list for you of 20 simple wedding tasks you can delegate. Check it out and start checking off that to do list.
5. Set Aside “Wedding Time”
This is one of my most important pieces of advice for wedding planning period. You don’t want to consume your guy or yourself with wedding planning 24/7 instead, designate a day or night for “wedding time.” The hubby and I did just this and I tell you it was a much better strategy versus bombarding him all at once or at random times. What worked for us was going to our local wine bar and having a glass (or two!) of vino while planning our big day. Our favorite wine bar worked for us but maybe you’d prefer the comforts of your couch at home or sitting in your home office. Whatever works for you as a couple!
What do you think of these tips? What has worked for you to get him involved? I’d love to hear your advice so leave a comment below!
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