Hey you, sweet people pleaser. Wedding planning is a job designed to be done by two-brides don’t have to (and shouldn’t) take on all the work. For some brides it’s hard to let go of the details and share, for others, it’s because their other half is less interested in all the decisions and details. But a wedding is about two people and it’s important that both of you are involved from beginning to end.
So what I want you to do today is to think “sharing is caring” with a list of tasks for your groom. Send this list to your groom, decide on a few deadlines and kick up your heels and enjoy watching a few extra items get checked off the wedding to-do list.
1. Collect Invitation Addresses
In a world of email and Facebook, it’s rare that you actually have all of your friend’s and family’s mailing addresses. So, ask your groom to gather them up the old fashioned way or by using Postable which is super quick and easy. Have him add the names and addresses to an excel spreadsheet which you can then send to your stationery team to address your save the dates and invitation envelops for you. The hubby and I did this and it was sooo worth it! It saved us oodles of time and I knew I wouldn’t be happy with my penmanship so it worked out perfectly.
2. Book The Honeymoon
Planning a wedding and a honeymoon requires super powers; especially if that honeymoon involves any international travel. Decide with your groom where you are each interested in enjoying your honeymoon. Research a few options with him and then put him in charge of booking the flights, hotels, and managing any other travel needs. Don’t know where to start with the honeymoon planning? Click here for 5 stress-free tips!
3. Guest’s Accommodation Options
It’s best to have several price options for your out-of-town guests so have your groom call around to different hotels for blocks of rooms. Have your groom head to my handy post that walks through how to easily book hotel room blocks.
4. Choose & Book Wedding Music
This task should be made a priority – as it’s often difficult to get the band of your dreams on the right date. Same goes for your ceremony music and DJ if you intend to have one, or both.
5. Organize the Groomsmen’s Suits
Believe it or not, finding the perfect suit at the perfect price point for all of your groomsmen can be a pesky job. Between the shopping, the fittings, negotiating, delivery, and tailoring it is almost more exhausting than finding a wedding dress. If your groom is interested in having everyone match, talk about the style of the suit together and then put him in charge of the suit order.
6. Arrange Wedding Transportation
Your groom will probably love this task, at least mine did! How will you and your bridal party get to and from your getting ready location to the ceremony, from the ceremony to the reception location and your getaway?
7. Organize Wedding Day Cash Payments
Lots of suppliers will need to be fully or partially paid on the wedding day. Most won’t take cheques so have each payment organized in labelled envelopes, ready to hand out. I would prefer if he organized this task himself but then delegate the actual handing out of money to someone else. He needs to enjoy the day as much as you!
8. Collect Deliveries
After everything is bought, ask your groom to arrange for times to collect each wedding element or if being delivered ensure someone is there to sign for it.
9. Buy Groomsmen Gifts
He will want to honor his groomsmen and thank them for standing by his side on the big day. Does your guy need some help trying to figure out some gift ideas? Direct him here where I list 10 gifts made in The Maritimes that groomsmen will love.
10. Chose A Signature Wedding Cocktail
My now husband and I loved creating our signature cocktail. Actually, we loved it so much we had more than one! We bought a variety of liquors and mixers and crafted a number of drinks together until we found ones we liked. By the end, we had perfect cocktails and a wonderful date night to boot. In need of some cocktail inspiration? Click here!
11. The Speech
A duty that most people stress over, so take your time – plan it in advance and keep it nice and brief.
12. Rehearsal Dinner
It can be customary for the groom’s parents to pitch in on the rehearsal dinner so this can be a great opportunity for your groom to get his family involved in a planning of the rehearsal dinner.
Still slightly overwhelmed? Check out all of my wedding planning posts here.
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