To gear up all of you newly engaged ladies let’s talk about the first steps you want to take in wedding planning. This isn’t a how-to or a list of things to do, but instead, a whole load of questions. An entire post of questions? Unusual? Perhaps, but I want to give you a little direction to all that wedding thinking that’s taken over your brain and most importantly get you talking.
Communication is key in any relationship and talking about your respective ideas and agreeing on a vision of your big day with your partner will avoid all sorts of stress and headache later on. These questions are meant to get you both talking and teasing out what you both envision for your big day together.
So, print this list of questions off, pop open a bottle of bubbly, and sit down with your fiancé for your first night of wedding planning.
What kind of wedding do you want?
So first, things first, this is a bit of a loaded question, there are really two parts to this – what are you thinking of in terms of the wedding ceremony, and what about the celebration or reception?
Church Ceremony or Civil Ceremony
For the wedding ceremony- do you want a church ceremony or a civil ceremony? If it’s a church ceremony – are you both the same religion? Any preferences what church – heart set on your local one or does it matter to either of you?
If you’re thinking about a civil ceremony, are you thinking getting married at city hall or would you like to get married at venue?
Small and Intimate Party or Bigger is Better Reception
Have you always dreamt of a classic big day with all the trimmings or an intimate party of 25? Go with your gut on this one. There are lots of factors which influence your actual day but it’s good to say out loud from the start if you want to elope or have a big royal-like wedding.
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What is your budget for the wedding?
This is definitely one of the trickiest parts of the wedding planning process and I have full posts on wedding budgets here and here, but in the meantime here are a few questions to get you started before you really start number crunching.
How much do you want to spend – do you have a ballpark wedding budget at all? You should think seriously about your circumstances and what you really want from the day before deciding on a budget. And think about – are you are going to use savings or get a loan? Are you paying for it or are you getting help from either or both sets of parents?
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Wedding Planning Details
The initial stages of wedding planning are a bit of a chicken and egg situation – trying to figure out what to spend or what kind of wedding you are going to have when you have little information or experience. There are more questions than answers at this stage, but there are some biggies to think about:
Who do you want to invite?
One of the biggest factors in the budget is the number of guests at a wedding. While everyone tries to keep the numbers down, the domino effect inevitably comes into play. You want to invite one person but that means you must invite another. And another. And another.
Wedding guest lists are a minefield – but who do you really want to celebrate your big day with? Do you expect that all of your family will attend? Are you really inviting all your work colleagues and university friends? Be realistic and prioritize.
What’s your ideal venue?
Have you always envisioned getting married at a rustic barn or modern city chic hotel? Are you all about a cozy bed and breakfast or small private dining room in your favorite restaurant? Do you want to get married in The Maritimes or are you dreaming of a destination wedding in Mexico?
When would you like to get married?
Have you dreamt of a wedding on the beach? Are you picturing a wedding in the snow? The time of year is important for two reasons- weather and budget. The peak time for weddings is June through August, so having your wedding in the winter months offers significant savings and a great value.
Is there a key theme, colour or inspiration you have in mind?
Most brides have a central idea they’d like to build their wedding around, anything from the colour pink, to travel inspiration, snowflakes, or even an era like the 1920s. Have you any great ideas floating around?
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Wedding Planning 101
So…are you overwhelmed, excited or both? These questions are just the beginning of a very exciting process and hopefully after chatting about them you should have come to some ideas or at least be more clear on what you each want for your wedding. It certainly won’t be the last convo you’ll have about planning your wedding day, but hopefully it’s given you a good start and generated some great ideas to get started with the rest of the wedding planning.
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